challenges and difficulties
Croce both yearns for, and fears, being emotionally vulnerable with others and experiencing deep emotional intimacy. Trusting others and letting himself be known in a deep way does not come easily to Benedetto, and sexual inhibitions may result from this. Benedetto Croce is very self-protective and may be compulsively secretive. Learning to relinquish control in personal relationships, and to be completely open, is an important task for Croce.
His childhood or his relationships with his parents was restrictive, unloving, or unhappy in ways that may prevent Benedetto from allowing other people to get close to him in later life. Benedetto Croce felt deprived in some manner, whether or not he actually was deprived in some way. Emotional separations or repression of his needs and feelings may typify his early life, at least as Croce remembers it. Forgiving his parents and/or letting go of any resentments he has about the limitations that he experienced early in his life is crucial. Also, Benedetto Croce needs to build his own solid foundation, and investing time and energy into his home, domestic relationships, and inner life can help Benedetto accomplish this.
Benedetto Croce feels that he must work very hard and struggle against tremendous odds that impede his chances of fulfilling his life's ambitions. Benedetto may adopt a very hard, cynical, or nihilistic attitude that will only drag him down further. There are major problems with his father or figures of authority. Benedetto Croce may fail simply to spite "them", without realizing that he is primarily hurting himself. If he can overcome his feelings of loneliness, bitterness or isolation, and direct his energies toward constructive endeavors, Croce can be immensely effective because of his tremendous tenacity and potential for achievement.
Benedetto could find it difficult to express himself and consequently he feels inhibited and lonely at times. He tends to isolate himself from others and his relationships seem strained. Conditions in Benedetto Croce's parental home may be oppressive and constrained.
He may feel inhibited in his relationships with others and give the impression of being unapproachable and wanting to keeps his distance. Benedetto Croce thinks about his feelings a long time before he expresses them to anyone and he tends to hide his inner self.
Benedetto Croce tends to suppress his feelings and may be a bit inhibited in love relationships. Often times he may feel rejected or he may give the impression of rejecting others himself. Perhaps his mother or father has a difficult time showing their affection.
He is inclined to be somewhat withdrawn and has a hard time discussing important matters with his family and close relationships. A serious and deep thinker, Benedetto Croce would like to explain his views to others, but has a difficult time finding the right words.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Benedetto Croce instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Benedetto Croce needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Instinctively he is a fighter and an individualist who can stand alone when necessary. Very often, however, Benedetto stands alone when he does not need to, not realizing the support, assistance, and resources others may have to offer. Benedetto Croce has a tendency to "reinvent the wheel" and to feel that he must be self-reliant and that only he can come up with the answers he needs. Implicit in this attitude is a kind of arrogance as well as a rather competitive approach, which - at its worst - can alienate him from others, or make Benedetto Croce feel that "it is me against the world".
Social skills and graces and what Benedetto Croce calls social "games" do not come naturally to him. Benedetto Croce needs to learn how to share and join others, and how to negotiate and resolve conflict with others in a cooperative way.
It is in trying to strike a balance between Croce's inner, personal life and his career or involvement with the world at large that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. Benedetto Croce needs to focus attention on his home and family situation, and create a secure inner anchor.
The specific habits which are likely to hold Benedetto Croce back, or which he is prone to overdo, especially during stressful periods, include:
Escapism through fantasy, intoxicants, or passive, vicarious activities (television, movies, etc.), waiting for a miracle instead of taking constructive steps to help himself, aimlessness or an inability to make and keep commitments, and self deception regarding other people. Benedetto has a tendency to be a martyr.
He is gay and cheerful in the company of others and happy to be with them. Benedetto Croce is fond of telling jokes and is likely to entertain everyone. His relationships with others are inclined to be for a common purpose.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Scorpio
Saturn in 4th house
Saturn Opposition Pluto
Saturn Opposition Sun/Moon
Saturn Opposition Moon/Mercury
Saturn Opposition Moon/Venus
Saturn Opposition Mercury/Asc.
N. Node in Libra
N. Node in 4th house
N. Node Opposition Neptune
N. Node Opposition Jupiter/Uranus