challenges and difficulties
Alfred Kinsey takes his personal relationships so seriously that they may seem more like work, constant effort, and compromise, rather than a free and enjoyable sharing. He may feel that relationships in general require more of him than they are worth, and Alfred enters into any close relationship cautiously and conscientiously. Alfred Kinsey also fears entrapment in close relationships.
Alfred Kinsey has a mature, disciplined, serious attitude toward life which colors everything he does. Caution and realism are his virtues though Alfred limits himself at times by being too careful, shy, or fearful, and not believing in himself enough or being assertive when necessary. Others find Alfred Kinsey difficult to get to know intimately, as Kinsey tends to distance himself from them or to put forth a rather stern, "adult" face to the world.
Now we will discuss patterns of behavior which Alfred Kinsey instinctively and habitually reverts to when under stress - a mostly subconscious process that he is apt to over indulge in because it is so familiar and hence easy for him. The direction Alfred Kinsey needs to follow in order to develop balance, greater awareness, and wholeness is also described.
Seeking harmonious interpersonal relationships, cooperation, and togetherness, as well as the desire to please or appease other people, are drives that come very naturally to Alfred Kinsey - so much so that he seeks them out at his own expense. When he is under stress, Kinsey tends to look outside himself for approval or answers, and he leans on others too much. Therefore, developing self-reliance, and the courage to look inwardly for answers and forge his own path through life is a key factor in his self-development.
Alfred Kinsey is often tempted to be less than completely straightforward about his intentions or desires, and he can become enmeshed in a quagmire of "little white lies". Stark honesty - both inward and toward others - is the only way out! This, however, leads to the need to confront some of Kinsey's most deeply ingrained fears, such as "what if they do not like me?" and "what if I have to go through this alone?".
Alfred Kinsey needs to cultivate his ability to be assertive, take initiative and act on his own behalf. Directness and self-reliance are imperative.
It is in his marriage and other intimate, one-to-one relationships that he is most likely to wrestle with these issues. He may see the qualities that he needs to develop more fully (described above) in his partner. It is important for Alfred Kinsey to recognize, appreciate, and listen to the people in his life who express such attributes, as well as to develop them himself. Alfred Kinsey has to put energy and attention into learning about others, and about himself through others.
The following are specific activities that will support Alfred Kinsey in his growth. These may or may not feel natural to Kinsey, and he may initially resist or feel awkward about them, but they are crucial to his path to wholeness.
Alfred Kinsey should become a warrior and cultivate a positive, victorious, active approach to life and to any problems he faces. It is in Kinsey's best interest to act on his own behalf instead of stalling, waiting or hoping someone else will do it for him. Alfred Kinsey needs to assert himself openly and courageously and not to be afraid to make mistakes or stumble; there are bound to be a few trial runs to any new initiative. Alfred needs to foster a healthy fighting spirit, pick himself up, and go! He also should learn to appreciate conflict and confrontation as a means to grow.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Saturn in Libra
Saturn in 1st house
N. Node in Aries
N. Node in 7th house
N. Node Conjunct Mars