Alan Arkin
in Relationships
Warm, loving and generous in his relationships, Alan Arkin inspires tremendous devotion and loyalty in his loved ones. This is good, since he would never settle for anything less! Alan wants to be adored and worshipped like the royalty he feels he is, and it is difficult for anyone to resist the warmth and attention Arkin lavishes on those he cares about. Alan Arkin has a great deal of pride and needs to be recognized and appreciated. The way to really hurt his feelings is to ignore him. He is genuine, sincere, and has a strong sense of personal integrity. Alan Arkin hates emotional games and dishonesty.
Alan Arkin has a sympathetic nature and instinctively reaches out to people in need of help. Arkin also has a deeply ingrained tendency to want to improve or "fix" other people's lives, which can be annoying to the person who has no desire to be changed or "helped" in this way. For Alan, affection and caring must be expressed in tangible acts or service of some kind.
He is assertive and confronts difficulties in a direct, no-nonsense sort of way. Alan Arkin cannot tolerate self-pity or passivity, and he can be rather brusque with others' emotional problems. "Stop crying and do something about it" might be Arkin's motto.
His emotional excitability is very strong and Arkin tends to be high-strung and impatient. Alan Arkin knows what he wants to accomplish, he forges ahead and brooks no interference. Domineering and forceful, it is not easy for Alan Arkin to back down gracefully when he is confronted.
He is open and unconventional in his attitude towards love relationships, romance and sex. He enjoys socializing, bringing people together and having many friends of both sexes. Alan Arkin values friendship very highly and in fact, he is more comfortable being a friend than a lover. Alan desires an intellectual rapport or spiritual bond with his love partner, but deep intimacy and emotional bonding do not come easily to him. The traditional "husband" and "wife" roles do not appeal to Arkin, and he abhors jealousy and possessiveness since he feels that no person truly "belongs" to another. Alan Arkin appreciates relationships in which his love partner allows him plenty of freedom and is not very emotionally demanding.
Alan Arkin often hides his affection, or finds his feelings difficult to express or get across to the person he loves. Being openly affectionate and trusting often does not seem safe to Alan. He may feel his love will not be appreciated or reciprocated. Alan Arkin may get involved in secret love relationships or fall in love with a person who is quite unavailable to him. Love and sacrifice often seem to go hand in hand for Alan Arkin - having to give something up to be with the one he loves, or having to relinquish some person or some aspect of an important love relationship.
Alan Arkin appreciates beautiful surroundings and congenial company, and though he enjoys helping people, Alan Arkin will rarely put himself out too much in the process. He is good-humored and generous at heart but inclined to be lazy.
Alan's pleasure-loving nature and his emotional and material generosity discussed above are counterbalanced by a certain caution or restraint in expressing his affection, and by a fear of heartache. At times Alan Arkin is likely to be the jovial, friendly, rather extravagant person mentioned previously, but at other times he is far more contained as described here. Because he is upbeat and fun-loving, people probably do not suspect how sensitive Arkin is to being left out or unappreciated.
Intimacy does not come easily to Alan Arkin and he may appear cold or unfeeling to others due to his emotional reserve and caution. Perhaps due to painful relationships and separations in his early life, Arkin does not trust others very easily and it takes a long time to break down all of his barriers and defenses. He may feel that he has few friends or people that really care about him. Alan Arkin needs to learn to value and love himself more and to express his appreciation for others more openly.
He is prone to get involved in highly intense, even obsessive relationships - "fatal attractions", so to speak. At its darkest, this urge for intensity in the personal arena may compel Alan Arkin to choose friends or mates who are rather dangerous or dishonorable characters with a penchant for manipulating and inflicting pain on their "loved ones". On the other hand, Arkin may be tempted to use his own sexuality or charm to play the same sort of game, to use love or friendship as a bargaining chip or to gain power over others. Even if his intentions are basically good, Alan Arkin will find that his closest relationships are rather tumultuous affairs in which some rather unlovely aspects of his (such as jealousy and the desire to dominate or to be a victim) keep showing their faces. These are qualities that need to be understood and ultimately outgrown.
It is hard for Alan Arkin to express his feelings and emotions to other people. He may feel especially inhibited in matters of love relationships and could feel dissatisfied and unfulfilled. Alan Arkin tends to feel lonely, even when he is in the company of others.
Alan Arkin treats others in an agreeable, affectionate and tactful way and freely shows his affection for them. His circle of friends is likely to be large and Arkin strives for the development of a strong community spirit.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon in Leo
Moon in 6th house
Moon Trine Mars
Moon Opposition Mars/MC
Venus in Aquarius
Venus in 12th house
Venus Trine Jupiter
Venus aspects Jupiter and Saturn
Venus Conjunct Saturn
Venus Quincunx Pluto
Venus Conjunct Saturn/N. Node
Venus Conjunct N. Node/Asc.
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