approach to life and appearances
The following is a description of Adam's basic stance toward life, the way others see him, the way Adam Duritz comes across, the face he shows to the world. In the page about motivation you will read about the inner Adam Duritz - his real motivation, which describes the kind of person he is at heart and where his true priorities lie. Study this page and the next one and compare them - there may be significant differences between the two, in which case "the inner Adam Duritz" may not shine through and others may be in for so a few surprises once they get to know Adam a little better. This page describes the disguise Duritz wears, his role in life, while the page about motivation talks about the real person beneath the disguise.
He is a natural diplomat, reasonable, tolerant, fair, always willing to listen to varying viewpoints, and prepared to see the other side of an issue. Even if he strongly disagrees with someone, Adam Duritz will try to find points of similarity and agreement rather than emphasizing the differences. He often avoids taking an extreme or one-sided stance on anything. Adam has a strong desire for harmonious and pleasant relationships, and revels in a spirit of cooperation, compromise, friendship, and fairness. Adam Duritz very much wants to be liked and because of his need for approval and acceptance, Duritz is easily influenced by others' opinions, especially those expressed by the young. He so much wants to please that often Adam Duritz will suppress his own intense or unpleasant feelings in order to avoid offending others. Sometimes Duritz's politeness is interpreted as being phony or wishy-washy.
His need to create harmony extends to his physical environment and personal appearance as well. Adam Duritz appreciates beauty and has a natural sense of balance, symmetry, and proportion. He does everything in good taste, with a sense of style and art. From his home furnishings to his choice of clothing, everything must be aesthetically appealing, not simply functional or utilitarian.
He also feels that relationships are a form of art - one that Duritz is especially interested in and usually quite skilled at, for Adam possesses tact and acute awareness of other people. Marriage is very significant to him and finding the right person to share his life with is extremely important. Being part of a close relationship seems natural to Adam Duritz - he is not an independent loner. Having a partner increases his self-confidence. Adam Duritz does have a tendency, however, to become overly dependent on his partner and perhaps not to develop a clearly defined identity outside of the relationship. Finding the balance between being himself and blending and uniting with another is a challenge for Adam.
Others see Adam Duritz as an agreeable, smooth, harmonious, and "nice" person. Though there may be much more to him, this is the sort of face Duritz shows to the world. He possesses personal charm and an understated, non-combative manner. His motto could be "one catches more flies with honey than with vinegar" for Adam Duritz usually adopts a friendly, cooperative approach rather than a strong, forceful, I'm-going-to-conquer-the-world attitude.
In significant ways, Duritz's emotional nature and personal needs are at odds with the way he presents himself. As a result of this inconsistency, Adam Duritz may be uncomfortable showing his instinctive responses and true feelings. He may put them aside and may even be ashamed of them.
When Adam Duritz is in an emotionally charged situation, those who do not know him well may be quite surprised at his reactions or behavior. The real challenge, though, is to completely accept himself, so that he does not act as if his emotional needs and impulses did not count for very much.
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