Zélia Cardoso de Mello
in Relationships

She is not easily moved by emotional displays and can be curiously detached from her own emotions and those of others. It is almost as if she could turn her feelings on and off at will; Zélia should be careful not to leave the switch "off" too often, for she could easily become too impersonal. Family relationships and attachments are not as important to her as they are to most people and Cardoso often considers her friends closer to her than her blood relatives. Certainly, Cardoso's sympathy and concern extends much beyond her immediate family. In her personal relationships, Zélia Cardoso de Mello insists upon a certain amount of independence and the freedom to pursue friendships with as many people, of both sexes, as she chooses. Zélia does not appreciate a jealous, possessive partner.

Zélia Cardoso de Mello feels comfortable in an atmosphere that is open and experimental, and she has little taste for convention and tradition.

Cardoso gets a lot of emotional fulfillment through her involvement in groups, clubs, organizations, community activities, or a network of close friends who support and care for her. Zélia Cardoso de Mello makes friends her family, and she feels a close kinship with people who share some ideals or beliefs that she holds dear. Zélia Cardoso de Mello needs close relationships with people outside of her physical family.

She needs love, affection, nurturing and enjoys being pampered - all of which is fine, as long as Zélia Cardoso de Mello is willing to give as well as receive the attention and "babying". Zélia has a rather childish dependency on loved ones, which can make her cling to them, or be very uncomfortable with any conflict that could conceivably lead to separation. Creating a loving family is certainly a challenge for Zélia - one that can be enormously satisfying if she can achieve it, and a source of great sadness if she cannot.

She is easygoing, agreeable and tolerant, willing to overlook others' mistakes, forget the past, and begin anew on a positive note. She enjoys making others comfortable and happy, and she sometimes overdoes her generosity. Zélia Cardoso de Mello often feels that "everything will turn out all right no matter what I do", thereby becoming lazy and lackadaisical.

There is another side to Zélia Cardoso de Mello as well, a rather introverted, self-contained, even pessimistic side which tempers her good cheer and generosity, as discussed below.

Zélia Cardoso de Mello has an inner poise and balance that enables her to act in a cool, efficient manner during emotional trauma and stress. She maintains her perspective and objectivity about highly charged emotional issues - sometimes to the chagrin of others who might wish that Cardoso would react more intensely. Zélia is quietly supportive and faithful to her friends and loved ones.

In addition to Zélia's rather introverted, serious or self-contained side, she has a wild streak and urge for emotional freedom that breaks through erratically. Zélia Cardoso de Mello craves both stability and excitement, and the conflict between these two impulses can make Cardoso rather tense and irritable. However, they can also balance each other out. Her freer and unpredictable side will now be described.

Zélia Cardoso de Mello tends to have strange quirks, idiosyncrasies, or domestic habits, and she may feel that she does not fit in with "normal" people. These could be endearing eccentricities, or truly outlandish tastes and behavior. Establishing a steady routine and rhythm in her life and relationships would be very beneficial but may not be easily achieved. Ideally Zélia Cardoso de Mello can create a unique lifestyle that affords her a lot of personal space, freedom, and flexibility to follow her own somewhat erratic rhythms - while at the same time providing some order and consistency. There is a current of emotional discontent or restlessness within Zélia also, which may be reflected in unstable personal relationships of the on again/off again variety. Zélia Cardoso de Mello craves change and excitement whether she realizes it consciously or not.

The beauty and harmony of her surroundings have a very powerful effect on Cardoso's emotions. She is very sensitive and cannot stand to be in an atmosphere where there is discord or dissonance. Gentle, kindhearted, and peace loving, Zélia Cardoso de Mello is prepared to sacrifice a great deal in order to avoid a fight and to "make everyone happy".

Her intimate and close personal relationships are often intense, highly-charged and difficult, as they trigger deep emotional responses in Zélia Cardoso de Mello that have more to do with unsatisfied hungers and unmet childhood needs than with the present situation. She may feel like a voracious, bottomless pit when it comes to nurturing and emotional reassurance, and Cardoso's neediness often drives others away. When Zélia Cardoso de Mello does let herself feel close to another human being, painful, long-buried feelings bubble to the surface as do - perhaps - grief at the losses she suffered or anger at the neglect or hurt she endured. She may also reenact these situations in her present day relationships, in an unconscious effort to resolve and heal old issues. Cardoso will do a lot of cleansing if she can listen to what her feelings are telling her. If not, Zélia Cardoso de Mello will simply have a tumultuous, passionate and stormy emotional life.

Emotionally excitable, Cardoso tends to act impulsively and make rash decisions without thinking of the consequences. Others may see Zélia as an eccentric, somewhat selfish and unpredictable. Zélia Cardoso de Mello seems to attract sudden upsetting experiences.

Zélia's emotional life seems to be overly intense and her sexuality is very strong. Zélia Cardoso de Mello is likely to make many demands of her partner and she has to guard against possessiveness, jealousy and a tendency to force someone to love her.

She is subject to changing moods and tends to alternate between associating with others and being completely alone, seeking to regenerate herself in solitude. Zélia Cardoso de Mello seems to be too critical of herself and tends to generate distance from others.

Her sense of reality is a bit weak; Cardoso tends to daydream and lose herself in her plans. She is likely to be preoccupied with fantasies or ideas that help her escape the ordinary. Always looking for ideal relationships, Zélia may be drawn to philanthropic associations.

Warmhearted and generous in love relationships, Zélia Cardoso de Mello cannot tolerate pettiness or stinginess in her partner. Zélia wants a hero to idolize and adore, someone to wholeheartedly admire and be proud of. Zélia Cardoso de Mello is tremendously loyal and devoted once she gives her heart to someone.

Zélia Cardoso de Mello craves love, appreciation and attention from others and hates to be ignored. She is rather susceptible to flattery and loves to feel special. Cardoso enjoys a touch of drama and color in her love relationships and she is impressed by grand romantic gestures or extravagant expressions of generosity.

Zélia Cardoso de Mello loves romance and wishes that the honeymoon phase of her love relationships would last forever! Cardoso needs dramatic romantic gestures and displays of affection from her partner, and she wants to feel very, very special, like a royalty, to her beloved. Zélia Cardoso de Mello also has an artistic flair and she enjoys creating art or beauty in some form.

Zélia Cardoso de Mello loves to laugh, celebrate, and to enjoy herself with her companions. Emotionally open and easygoing, Zélia considers just about anyone a friend or potential friend. Her good humor and friendliness make her quite popular and well-liked. At times, Zélia Cardoso de Mello overdoes the festivities, but she rarely regrets this.

Zélia's pleasure-loving nature and her emotional and material generosity discussed above are counterbalanced by a certain caution or restraint in expressing her affection, and by a fear of heartache. At times Zélia Cardoso de Mello is likely to be the jovial, friendly, rather extravagant person mentioned previously, but at other times she is far more contained as described here. Because she is upbeat and fun-loving, people probably do not suspect how sensitive Cardoso is to being left out or unappreciated.

In love relationships and romance, it is important for Zélia Cardoso de Mello to be able to deeply respect her partner. Zélia looks beyond the superficial qualities to see their inner worth (or lack thereof), before she lets herself really fall for someone. In fact, too much glamour or flashiness is something of a turn-off to her. Zélia Cardoso de Mello is capable of mature, lasting loving relationships and seeks a mate who is deep, loyal, and committed. She may be drawn to someone older than her.

Zélia Cardoso de Mello has a rich, colorful, dreamy imagination and a refined sense of beauty. Involvement in the arts, or with artistic, sensitive, or spiritually inclined people is very satisfying to her. In her friendships and romantic relationships, Cardoso tends to be unselfish, giving, and forgiving. Zélia Cardoso de Mello might enjoy joining with others for charitable events or social service.

Zélia has deep, compelling love feelings that seem irresistible and often irrational. Her love relationships are very passionate and intense, and Cardoso experiences both agony and ecstasy in love. Zélia Cardoso de Mello is always profoundly changed by her love experiences, though this change may stem from painful and difficult confrontations or separations. She is somewhat emotionally fanatic about things she cares about.

She is likely to have many romantic relationships or unusual love experiences. Zélia Cardoso de Mello tends to fall in love quickly and enjoy a conquest, but then tire of what has been conquered. If she does not keep this in control, she could end up in a hasty marriage and a quick divorce.

She may be caught in a conflict between caution and optimism frequently, resulting in restlessness and discontentment. In love relationships, Zélia Cardoso de Mello could feel controlled, rejected or not accepted at times, and at other times experience great ease, happiness and content.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Aquarius

Moon in 11th house

Moon Opposition Venus

Moon Trine Jupiter

Moon aspects Jupiter and Saturn

Moon Trine Saturn

Moon aspects Saturn and Uranus

Moon Quincunx Uranus

Moon Trine Neptune

Moon Opposition Pluto

Moon Opposition Sun/Uranus

Moon Opposition Venus/Pluto

Moon Opposition Jupiter/Saturn

Moon Opposition Jupiter/Neptune

Venus in Leo

Venus in 5th house

Venus Sextile Jupiter

Venus aspects Jupiter and Saturn

Venus Sextile Saturn

Venus Sextile Neptune

Venus Conjunct Pluto

Venus Conjunct Sun/Uranus

Venus Conjunct Jupiter/Saturn