Xaviera Hollander
in Relationships

Secretive and inclined to brooding silences, it is difficult for others to really know her inner core, for Xaviera Hollander only trusts and opens herself to a select few. Allowing herself to be vulnerable and to relinquish control in relationships is not easy for Hollander.

Xaviera has intense, passionate loves and hates and is a jealously loyal and protective friend - or a fearsome foe. Xaviera Hollander has a nasty habit of holding onto past hurts, resentments and guilt - and to keep such feelings to herself. It is important for Xaviera Hollander to learn to forgive and let go, as well as to express her feelings openly and directly, rather than hiding or repressing them.

She is not content with superficial appearances and is always probing beneath the surface of things for hidden motives. Xaviera Hollander has a great deal of emotional depth.

Xaviera Hollander has a sympathetic nature and instinctively reaches out to people in need of help. Hollander also has a deeply ingrained tendency to want to improve or "fix" other people's lives, which can be annoying to the person who has no desire to be changed or "helped" in this way. For Xaviera, affection and caring must be expressed in tangible acts or service of some kind.

Xaviera has conflicting emotional desires and needs which complicate her personal life and relationships. She may feel that she cannot depend on her love partner to take care of her or perhaps Hollander cannot decide what she really wants in love relationships: a parent or a lover. If her needs for emotional sustenance and love are not satisfied, overeating (especially sweets) can become a problem.

Xaviera Hollander tends to have strange quirks, idiosyncrasies, or domestic habits, and she may feel that she does not fit in with "normal" people. These could be endearing eccentricities, or truly outlandish tastes and behavior. Establishing a steady routine and rhythm in her life and relationships would be very beneficial but may not be easily achieved. Ideally Xaviera Hollander can create a unique lifestyle that affords her a lot of personal space, freedom, and flexibility to follow her own somewhat erratic rhythms - while at the same time providing some order and consistency. There is a current of emotional discontent or restlessness within Xaviera also, which may be reflected in unstable personal relationships of the on again/off again variety. Xaviera Hollander craves change and excitement whether she realizes it consciously or not.

Xaviera has intense desires and feelings and her personal relationships are deeply emotional, passionate and often stormy and painful as well. Xaviera Hollander has powerful magnetic relationships with those she cares about, and she could become emotionally obsessed by another person. Her feelings can become so urgent and compelling that she behaves irrationally. Xaviera Hollander undergoes periodic emotional upheavals and purging when she must break all ties with the past and begin anew.

Her thinking and acting are strongly influenced by her feelings. Xaviera has great mental energy, is somewhat restless, curious and impatient, and at times she may need to slow down. Xaviera Hollander loves debate and argument and also has good writing ability.

She is hot-tempered and tends to get annoyed and angered easily. Very competitive, Xaviera Hollander is always willing to take on any challenge. Tact and diplomacy are not of her strong points and Xaviera must learn to master her irritability and quarrelsomeness.

Warmhearted and generous in love relationships, Xaviera Hollander cannot tolerate pettiness or stinginess in her partner. Xaviera wants a hero to idolize and adore, someone to wholeheartedly admire and be proud of. Xaviera Hollander is tremendously loyal and devoted once she gives her heart to someone.

Xaviera Hollander craves love, appreciation and attention from others and hates to be ignored. She is rather susceptible to flattery and loves to feel special. Hollander enjoys a touch of drama and color in her love relationships and she is impressed by grand romantic gestures or extravagant expressions of generosity.

Beautiful, elegant, and harmonious surroundings are very important to Xaviera Hollander, and she has an innate sense of style, design, and form. Socially, also, good form and politeness are important to Hollander and she instinctively avoids crudeness and dissonance.

She enjoys talking about love, relationships, art and the beautiful side of life. Xaviera Hollander appreciates artistic people.

She needs a lot of emotional and romantic stimulation, and may not be very interested in having just one mate or love partner. Variety, excitement, spontaneity, and freedom are quite important to Xaviera, and "settling down" is not that appealing. Xaviera Hollander tends to surround herself with unusual, creative, unconventional people that keep her life lively. Music or dancing or both play an important part in Hollander's life.

Xaviera has deep, compelling love feelings that seem irresistible and often irrational. Her love relationships are very passionate and intense, and Hollander experiences both agony and ecstasy in love. Xaviera Hollander is always profoundly changed by her love experiences, though this change may stem from painful and difficult confrontations or separations. She is somewhat emotionally fanatic about things she cares about.

Her attitude is positive and harmonious and Xaviera Hollander impresses others as a very caring individual. She is very friendly and pleasant when she is with other people and knows how to make herself popular. She is likely to have a very happy family life.

Her energy and initiative seem to be a bit weak and could frequently inhibit Xaviera's sex life. Her unrealistic ideals about relationships could lead to disillusionment, and Xaviera Hollander may feel that real mortals are disappointing, and prefer her fantasies.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Scorpio

Moon in 6th house

Moon Square Venus

Moon Quincunx Uranus

Moon Square Pluto

Moon Opposition Mercury/Mars

Moon Opposition Mars/Asc.

Venus in Leo

Venus in 3rd house

Venus Sextile Uranus

Venus Conjunct Pluto

Venus Conjunct Jupiter/N. Node

Venus Conjunct Saturn/Neptune