Tom Baker
in Relationships

Tom Baker has frequent emotional outbursts due to his fiery temper and emotional impulsiveness. Baker expresses himself very directly and honestly and no one has to guess what his true feelings are. However, Tom Baker dislikes showing any personal weakness or his need for support, comfort and nurturing. He is often impatient with himself and others. Tom abhors emotional dependency and dislikes "complainers".

Tom Baker inspires others to take positive action in their lives through his own enthusiasm and eagerness to meet life's challenges, and he is attracted to people who are adventurous, courageous and independent. Tom is rather bossy but does not like to be with people that he can boss around too much. He enjoys a good fight sometimes. Relationships that are built on mutual respect and emotional freedom are ideal for Baker.

Tom Baker becomes very cross if he lacks vigorous physical activity. Baker feels his best if he frequently "does battle" on the tennis or racquetball court (or engages in another form of competitive sport).

Tom Baker often makes decisions solely for emotional or personal reasons, because something "feels right" or because he has always done it a certain way and is uncomfortable acting otherwise. Even when Baker thinks he is being rational, his prejudices, intuitions and feelings influence his thoughts a great deal. Tom is comfortable talking about feelings and personal subjects, and sharing confidences, which enables others to express their own inner feelings with him as well. Tom Baker has good psychological insight into others.

His sense of reality is a bit weak; Baker tends to daydream and lose himself in his plans. He is likely to be preoccupied with fantasies or ideas that help him escape the ordinary. Always looking for ideal relationships, Tom may be drawn to philanthropic associations.

Tom Baker seems to float above reality and has a very intense imagination. Tom likes to daydream and is apt to have many wishes and illusions that rarely have a chance to materialize. He is guided by his feelings and seems to live in a world of his own.

He is open and unconventional in his attitude towards love relationships, romance and sex. He enjoys socializing, bringing people together and having many friends of both sexes. Tom Baker values friendship very highly and in fact, he is more comfortable being a friend than a lover. Tom desires an intellectual rapport or spiritual bond with his love partner, but deep intimacy and emotional bonding do not come easily to him. The traditional "husband" and "wife" roles do not appeal to Baker, and he abhors jealousy and possessiveness since he feels that no person truly "belongs" to another. Tom Baker appreciates relationships in which his love partner allows him plenty of freedom and is not very emotionally demanding.

For Tom Baker, caring and affection must be expressed tangibly, and he loves giving and receiving gifts. Tom greatly values luxury, comfort, and elegance and appreciates beautiful things. He can be self-indulgent and extravagant. Being overly possessive of people he loves and of his belongings is something Tom Baker needs to beware of.

Tom Baker is extremely amorous and it is difficult for him to go without romantic relationships for very long. When he is attracted to someone, Tom Baker pursues her very ardently and sometimes comes on too strong. Being engaged in creative or artistic work can also satisfy his very strong desire for love and beauty.

Tom Baker appreciates beautiful surroundings and congenial company, and though he enjoys helping people, Tom Baker will rarely put himself out too much in the process. He is good-humored and generous at heart but inclined to be lazy.

Tom's pleasure-loving nature and his emotional and material generosity discussed above are counterbalanced by a certain caution or restraint in expressing his affection, and by a fear of heartache. At times Tom Baker is likely to be the jovial, friendly, rather extravagant person mentioned previously, but at other times he is far more contained as described here. Because he is upbeat and fun-loving, people probably do not suspect how sensitive Baker is to being left out or unappreciated.

Intimacy does not come easily to Tom Baker and he may appear cold or unfeeling to others due to his emotional reserve and caution. Perhaps due to painful relationships and separations in his early life, Baker does not trust others very easily and it takes a long time to break down all of his barriers and defenses. He may feel that he has few friends or people that really care about him. Tom Baker needs to learn to value and love himself more and to express his appreciation for others more openly.

When it comes to love relationships, Baker is likely to feel pulled in several directions at once. In addition to his desire for depth and security in his relationships, Tom Baker has an impulsive side and a need for a lot of variety and excitement, as discussed in the following paragraphs. These urges do not have to conflict, but they certainly can, especially if Tom acts on his spontaneous impulses without much consideration for their long-term effects on his personal life.

He needs a lot of emotional and romantic stimulation, and may not be very interested in having just one mate or love partner. Variety, excitement, spontaneity, and freedom are quite important to Tom, and "settling down" is not that appealing. Tom Baker tends to surround himself with unusual, creative, unconventional people that keep his life lively. Music or dancing or both play an important part in Baker's life.

He is prone to getting involved in highly intense, even obsessive relationships - "fatal attractions", so to speak. At its darkest, this urge for intensity in the personal arena may compel Tom Baker to choose friends or mates who are rather dangerous or dishonorable characters with a penchant for manipulating and inflicting pain on their "loved ones". On the other hand, Baker may be tempted to use his own sexuality or charm to play the same sort of game, to use love or friendship as a bargaining chip or to gain power over others. Even if his intentions are basically good, Tom Baker will find that his closest relationships are rather tumultuous affairs in which some rather unsavory aspects of his character (such as jealousy and the desire to dominate or to be a victim) keep surfacing. These are qualities that need to be understood and ultimately outgrown.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Aries

Moon in 3rd house

Moon Opposition Jupiter/Neptune

Moon Opposition Neptune/MC

Venus in Aquarius

Venus in 2nd house

Venus Conjunct Mars

Venus Trine Jupiter

Venus aspects Jupiter and Saturn

Venus Conjunct Saturn

Venus aspects Saturn and Uranus

Venus Sextile Uranus

Venus Quincunx Pluto