Selena
in Relationships

Serious and responsible, she tries to carry the world on her shoulders and rarely lets others know that she needs help and support. Selena denies or ignores her own emotional needs and feels that others will not accept her if she appears "weak". She is especially uncomfortable with emotional dependency, and tells herself and others (even children) not to be a "baby". Selena needs to accept that no one is self-sufficient all the time, and to be gentler with her "childish" emotional needs and wants. To others, she may appear to be rather hard-nosed and tough, with a businesslike attitude toward their personal concerns and feelings. Actually, no one is a truer friend. Her feelings and loyalties run deep, but she often does not let people know how much she cares. Selena also sometimes needs to learn to relax, enjoy herself, and play.

Selena has a sympathetic nature and instinctively reaches out to people in need of help. Selena also has a deeply ingrained tendency to want to improve or "fix" other people's lives, which can be annoying to the person who has no desire to be changed or "helped" in this way. For Selena, affection and caring must be expressed in tangible acts of some kind.

Tremendously softhearted and sympathetic, Selena gives very selflessly and devotedly to those she loves and often allows others to become overly dependent upon her. More compassionate than passionate, Selena may become romantically involved with a person because she or she expresses a need for love, rather than out of mutual pleasure or attraction.

She is drawn to sensitive, imaginative, gentle souls - poets, musicians, dreamers - or to someone Selena feels she can have a deep spiritual relationship with. Selena idealizes love and has a very beautiful, romantic vision of what love relationships can be.

Selena is attracted to foreigners, exotic places, traveling and people who can expand her horizons, teach her something, or show her places and worlds she has never experienced before. Sharing a philosophy or ideal with her love partner is important to her.

Moreover, Selena feels love and kinship for people everywhere, not only for her own family, nationality, or group. Finding similarities and making links between people from differing backgrounds or with different perspectives is a gift of hers.

Selena has a great rapport with the opposite sex, and love relationships, romance, and passion are absolutely vital to her well being. It is rare for Selena to go very long without an intimate companion. The physical component of relationships is also very important to Selena. Artistic creations and projects are another way for Selena to channel her passion.

In love relationships and romance, it is important for Selena to be able to deeply respect her partner. Selena looks beyond the superficial qualities to see their inner worth (or lack thereof), before she lets herself really fall for someone. In fact, too much glamour or flashiness is something of a turn-off for her. Selena is capable of mature, lasting, loving relationships and seeks a mate who is deep, loyal, and committed. She may be drawn to someone older than her.

It may be hard for Selena to love someone and to express her love for them. There seems to be a wall built up between her and others and she seems very cool to them. Her disposition is very reserved and withdrawn, making it difficult for people to approach her.

Selena tries to understand others completely and has the ability to feel their joy with them and also to suffer with them. When Selena loves someone, she loves with her whole heart and is inclined to reveal her most inner and private feelings.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Capricorn

Moon in 6th house

Venus in Pisces

Venus in 9th house

Venus Sextile Mars

Venus Sextile Saturn

Venus Conjunct Mars/Saturn

Venus Conjunct N. Node/MC