Ray-J
in Relationships

Ray-J responds very strongly to the emotional tone and atmosphere around him, and can be dominated by his fluctuating and unpredictable moods. Ray-J often appears irrational to others because he cannot always explain the reason or source of his feelings. Anyone who lives with Ray-J must accept his ups and downs and appreciate Ray-J's need for times of withdrawal.

Ray-J is also very sympathetic and understands the unspoken feelings and needs of others. Ray-J takes slights and rebuffs very personally and though he may forgive a transgression by a friend or loved one, he never forgets it.

Ray-J often makes decisions solely for emotional or personal reasons, because something "feels right" or because he has always done it a certain way and is uncomfortable acting otherwise. Even when Ray-J thinks he is being rational, his prejudices, intuitions and feelings influence his thoughts a great deal. Ray-J is comfortable talking about feelings and personal subjects, and sharing confidences, which enables others to express their own inner feelings with him as well. Ray-J has good psychological insight into others.

He needs love, affection, nurturing and enjoys being pampered - all of which is fine, as long as Ray-J is willing to give as well as receive the attention and "babying". Ray-J has a rather childish dependency on loved ones, which can make him cling to them, or be very uncomfortable with any conflict that could conceivably lead to separation. Creating a loving family is certainly a challenge for Ray-J - one that can be enormously satisfying if he can achieve it, and a source of great sadness if he cannot.

Ray-J has a buoyant, cheerful disposition and he reaches out to others in a warm, open and friendly way. His emotional generosity and lack of pettiness is well known among his circle of friends, and people often seek Ray-J out for help, sympathy or advice. Ray-J is always willing to overlook others' faults, and he sometimes overdoes his charitableness.

There is another side to Ray-J as well, a rather introverted, self-contained, even pessimistic side which tempers his good cheer and generosity, as discussed below.

Ray-J often feels that he must do something or be something other than what he is in order to receive approval and acceptance from others. He is very sensitive to criticism and easily feels left out or neglected, and though he may appear cool or distant, Ray-J actually cares very much about being included. Because he is so sensitive, it may seem easier for Ray-J to withdraw into a shell rather than risk the emotional bumps and bruises he may endure once he lets others really know him in an intimate, personal way. His reserve and caution make establishing close emotional relationships with others difficult, and Ray-J becomes very attached to the few people he considers "real friends". Ray-J can gain inner security and strength through periods of solitude if he views them as times to nourish himself and develop his own interests, rather than as times of loneliness.

Ray-J seems to float above reality and has a very intense imagination. Ray-J likes to daydream and is apt to have many wishes and illusions that rarely have a chance to materialize. He is guided by his feelings and seems to live in a world of his own.

He is definitely not one to wear his heart on his sleeve. Ray-J cares very much about others' opinions and craves love and appreciation as much as anyone - however one would never know it from Ray-J's reserved and seemingly detached demeanor. Casual, superficial relationships do not interest Ray-J at all. He is cautious and serious about love and really desires deep, genuine, lasting relationships. Ray-J is old-fashioned about courtship and love relationships, and will remain faithful to his loved one in good times and in bad.

Ray-J may be attracted to older persons who are emotionally mature and reliable and can provide the security Ray-J desires.

Ray-J is attracted to foreigners, exotic places, traveling and people who can expand his horizons, teach him something, or show him places and worlds he has never experienced before. Sharing a philosophy or ideal with his love partner is important to him.

Moreover, Ray-J feels love and kinship for people everywhere, not only for his own family, nationality, or group. Finding similarities and making links between people from differing backgrounds or with different perspectives is a gift of his.

Ray-J shares whatever he has freely and his friends know they can always count on Ray-J's generosity and support - both emotional and material. His good-hearted acceptance and tolerance of others' foibles goes a long way toward maintaining harmony in his relationships. Ray-J also has a lazy streak and sometimes avoids confronting difficult issues in relationships simply because it seems like too much trouble and too petty. Ray-J likes to socialize and will use any excuse to celebrate with friends. He cannot tolerate being overly restricted by his love partner, and encourages his partner's freedom as well.

Ray-J's pleasure-loving nature and his emotional and material generosity discussed above are counterbalanced by a certain caution or restraint in expressing his affection, and by a fear of heartache. At times Ray-J is likely to be the jovial, friendly, rather extravagant person mentioned previously, but at other times he is far more contained as described here. Because he is upbeat and fun-loving, people probably do not suspect how sensitive Ray-J is to being left out or unappreciated.

He is serious and finds it difficult to enjoy himself in a lighthearted, open and playful way with others. Ray-J rarely does something purely for pleasure, and can be very close-fisted and parsimonious. Perhaps due to painful separations in his early life, Ray-J is very cautious about becoming involved in close relationships and sharing his feelings. Though Ray-J craves love and affection, intimacy is difficult for him. He may become romantically involved with people who do not value him or treat him well. Ray-J needs to learn to love and value himself before he finds happiness in love.

Others may get the impression that Ray-J considers personal relationships not very important, as he may pretend to have feelings for someone when he really does not. Ray-J would make a very good actor playing the part of a lover.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Cancer

Moon in 3rd house

Moon Opposition Venus

Moon Square Jupiter

Moon aspects Jupiter and Saturn

Moon Square Saturn

Moon Opposition Neptune/MC

Venus in Capricorn

Venus in 9th house

Venus Square Jupiter

Venus aspects Jupiter and Saturn

Venus Square Saturn

Venus Conjunct Neptune/MC