Paul Tortelier
in Relationships
Serious and responsible, he tries to carry the world on his shoulders and rarely lets others know that he needs help and support. Paul Tortelier denies or ignores his own emotional needs and feels that others will not accept him if he appears "weak". He is especially uncomfortable with emotional dependency, and tells himself and others (even children) not to be a "baby". Paul Tortelier needs to accept that no one is self-sufficient all the time, and to be gentler with his "childish" emotional needs and wants. To others, he may appear to be rather hard-nosed and tough, with a businesslike attitude toward their personal concerns and feelings. Actually, no one is a truer friend. His feelings and loyalties run deep, but he often does not let people know how much he cares. Paul Tortelier also sometimes needs to learn to relax, enjoy himself, and play.
His own feelings and emotions are something of an enigma to Paul, and it is often difficult for him to share what he is feeling with others.
Paul Tortelier frequently withdraws from the world and needs a healing, peaceful environment in order to blossom and come out of his own world.
Tortelier identifies with the oppressed, disenfranchised or underdog in any situation and he wants to help them or care for them in some way.
Emotionally he is very sensitive, dreamy, gentle and easily influenced. If he is with harmonious people and in congenial surroundings, Paul Tortelier flourishes, but negative people or dissonant energies very quickly bring him down. His emotional boundaries tend to be very loose and permeable. Paul Tortelier feels what others feel, and physically he is very open and impressionable. Standing up for himself, saying no when he wants to, as well as recognizing and respecting others' limitations and boundaries are important lessons for Paul Tortelier to learn. Paul Tortelier should beware of a tendency for martyrdom out of pity for others' problems.
Powerful and complex emotions stir Paul Tortelier, and his emotional life and closest personal relationships are liable to be tumultuous until Paul does some deep soul searching. Buried feelings and memories that he does not want to deal with may surface at unexpected times. Holding in fears, secrets or "taboo" thoughts and feelings can only intensify them, and Paul Tortelier needs to share them with someone who is sympathetic, trustworthy and fairly objective. Ridding himself of emotional compulsions and deeply embedded patterns that do not serve him can be tremendously liberating if Paul Tortelier is willing to do the necessary inner house cleaning.
His love feelings and desires are easily aroused but he may find it difficult to sustain his romantic interest in relationships after the initial, exciting "chase and conquest". Paul Tortelier enjoys a dynamic partner with a strong independent streak, and he does not like things to become too peaceful or predictable in the love arena. Paul wants to see sparks fly once in awhile, even if it means instigating a fight.
For Paul Tortelier, caring and affection must be expressed tangibly, and he loves giving and receiving gifts. Paul greatly values luxury, comfort, and elegance and appreciates beautiful things. He can be self-indulgent and extravagant. Being overly possessive of people he loves and of his belongings is something Paul Tortelier needs to beware of.
He is intensely amorous and attractive to the opposite sex, and is not inclined to friendly platonic relationships. There is a great deal of tension in his love relationships - often because Paul Tortelier puts his desires ahead of his partner's, and is impatient to have his love needs satisfied. The whole arena of love relationships, romance and sex is endlessly fascinating to Paul Tortelier and he is not happy without a love partner. Tortelier can "burn himself out" by pouring so much of his energy into romance.
In love relationships and romance, it is important for Paul Tortelier to be able to deeply respect his partner. Paul looks beyond the superficial qualities to see their inner worth (or lack thereof), before he lets himself really fall for someone. In fact, too much glamour or flashiness is something of a turn-off for him. Paul Tortelier is capable of mature, lasting, loving relationships and seeks a mate who is deep, loyal, and committed. He may be drawn to someone older than him.
When it comes to love relationships, Tortelier is likely to feel pulled in several directions at once. In addition to his desire for depth and security in his relationships, Paul Tortelier has an impulsive side and a need for a lot of variety and excitement, as discussed in the following paragraphs. These urges do not have to conflict, but they certainly can, especially if Paul acts on his spontaneous impulses without much consideration for their long-term effects on his personal life.
He needs a lot of emotional and romantic stimulation, and may not be very interested in having just one mate or love partner. Variety, excitement, spontaneity, and freedom are quite important to Paul, and "settling down" is not that appealing. Paul Tortelier tends to surround himself with unusual, creative, unconventional people that keep his life lively. Music or dancing or both play an important part in Tortelier's life.
His association with those around he may have a depressing influence on Paul Tortelier causing him to shy away from relationships of any kind. Finding it difficult to express himself emotionally, he is quite likely to become a loner.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon in Capricorn
Moon in 12th house
Moon Opposition Neptune
Moon Quincunx Pluto
Venus in Aries
Venus in 2nd house
Venus Square Mars
Venus Sextile Saturn
Venus aspects Saturn and Uranus
Venus Sextile Uranus
Venus Conjunct Saturn/Asc.
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