Nicholas Ray
in Relationships

Serious and responsible, he tries to carry the world on his shoulders and rarely lets others know that he needs help and support. Nicholas Ray denies or ignores his own emotional needs and feels that others will not accept him if he appears "weak". He is especially uncomfortable with emotional dependency, and tells himself and others (even children) not to be a "baby". Nicholas Ray needs to accept that no one is self-sufficient all the time, and to be gentler with his "childish" emotional needs and wants. To others, he may appear to be rather hard-nosed and tough, with a businesslike attitude toward their personal concerns and feelings. Actually, no one is a truer friend. His feelings and loyalties run deep, but he often does not let people know how much he cares. Nicholas Ray also sometimes needs to learn to relax, enjoy himself, and play.

Ray gets a lot of emotional fulfillment through his involvement in groups, clubs, organizations, community activities, or a network of close friends who support and care for him. Nicholas Ray makes friends his family, and he feels a close kinship with people who share some ideals or beliefs that he holds dear. Nicholas Ray needs close relationships with people outside of his physical family.

Nicholas Ray feels that little, daily acts of caring and thoughtfulness are essential to the happiness and success of relationships and he knows how to make others feel accepted, loved and cherished. He enjoys good relationships with women.

Nicholas Ray has an inner poise and balance that enables him to act in a cool, efficient manner during emotional trauma and stress. He maintains his perspective and objectivity about highly charged emotional issues - sometimes to the chagrin of others who might wish that Ray would react more intensely. Nicholas is quietly supportive and faithful to his friends and loved ones.

In addition to Nicholas' rather introverted, serious or self-contained side, he has a wild streak and urge for emotional freedom that breaks through erratically. Nicholas Ray craves both stability and excitement, and the conflict between these two impulses can make Ray rather tense and irritable. However, they can also balance each other out. His freer and unpredictable side will now be described.

Nicholas has an unusual sense of humor and enjoys acting a little bit crazy or outlandish sometimes. Ray craves excitement and emotional freedom and he likes to break the rules and take risks. Anything new or untried appeals to Ray and he has little patience for restrictive customs. Nicholas Ray is attracted to unusual, creative, or offbeat people and nontraditional lifestyles and relationships.

Emotionally he is very sensitive, dreamy, gentle and easily influenced. If he is with harmonious people and in congenial surroundings, Nicholas Ray flourishes, but negative people or dissonant energies very quickly bring him down. His emotional boundaries tend to be very loose and permeable. Nicholas Ray feels what others feel, and physically he is very open and impressionable. Standing up for himself, saying no when he wants to, as well as recognizing and respecting others' limitations and boundaries are important lessons for Nicholas Ray to learn. Nicholas Ray should beware of a tendency for martyrdom out of pity for others' problems.

Nicholas Ray tends to be a loner and is inclined to suppress his feelings. Other people think they know Nicholas, but they never really do. At times he may withdraw too much and may alienate others. Nicholas Ray is also somewhat biased and may be torn by inner conflicts.

He is inclined to identify duty and happiness with each other. Self-disciplined and realistic, Nicholas Ray expects very little. Once he has found his mate, Nicholas Ray will be faithful, self-sacrificing and strongly attached to his partner.

He is quietly devoted and faithful to his loved ones and often becomes subservient to his love partner. Nicholas Ray is more comfortable showing his love by doing or making something for his loved one, or simply being there for her, rather than by making any romantic, soul-stirring declarations. He is timid about expressing too much sentiment or emotion. Nicholas Ray also underestimates his attractiveness and lovability and doubts his own worthiness of love and appreciation.

When he cares about someone, Nicholas Ray likes to serve them by doing small thoughtful favors, helping them, or doing something tangible to show his affection.

Nicholas Ray has also considerable artistic or creative skill. In fact, Nicholas is suited for a profession involving beauty or pleasure or making people happy in some way.

Loyalty, fidelity and security are very important to Nicholas Ray in love relationships. He is cautious about giving his heart away but true to the one who does win his love. His tastes are simple, even austere, and he does not appreciate frivolity. Ray is interested in a person's character and inner qualities far more than in his or her appearance. Casual or superficial relationships do not interest Nicholas Ray at all, for love seems to get deeper and richer and more satisfying for him with time.

When it comes to love relationships, Ray is likely to feel pulled in several directions at once. In addition to his desire for depth and security in his relationships, Nicholas Ray has an impulsive side and a need for a lot of variety and excitement, as discussed in the following paragraphs. These urges do not have to conflict, but they certainly can, especially if Nicholas acts on his spontaneous impulses without much consideration for their long-term effects on his personal life.

He is open and progressive in his attitude towards love relationships and romance, and spontaneous and free in the way he expresses his love. Nicholas Ray is always willing to experiment and try anything new that his partner suggests, and he enjoys being surprised. A relationship in which both Nicholas and his partner have a good deal of freedom and independence will hold Ray's interest much more than a safe, predictable one.

Nicholas Ray has a rich, colorful, dreamy imagination and a refined sense of beauty. Involvement in the arts, or with artistic, sensitive, or spiritually inclined people is very satisfying to him. In his friendships and romantic relationships, Ray tends to be unselfish, giving, and forgiving. Nicholas Ray might enjoy joining with others for charitable events or social service.

Nicholas Ray experiences powerful, compelling emotional and sexual attractions, and he may feel that he has little choice or control over his desires. Nicholas Ray has an intense need for love and may be emotionally greedy or insatiable. His love relationships are passionate and often tumultuous and painful as well. Jealousy, power struggles or possessiveness can become areas of conflict in his relationships. On the positive side, Nicholas Ray can be unusually creative and bring about beneficial and healing changes in the lives of others, motivated by his deeply felt love.

His strong enthusiasm for life affects everyone around him. Nicholas Ray has a sense of well-being, a harmonious sex-life and he is likely to enjoy healthy and affectionate love relationships. Nicholas Ray also has a lot of creative ideas and could do well with some kind of craft projects.

His romantic relationships are inclined to be rather stressed. Nicholas Ray longs for new experiences on one hand, but feels restricted or thwarted by circumstances on the other. Ray tends to fight against limitations and may frequently be irritated by the conduct of others.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Capricorn

Moon in 11th house

Moon Trine Venus

Moon Trine Saturn

Moon aspects Saturn and Uranus

Moon Conjunct Uranus

Moon Opposition Neptune

Moon Opposition Sun/Pluto

Moon Opposition Venus/Saturn

Venus in Virgo

Venus in 6th house

Venus Trine Saturn

Venus aspects Saturn and Uranus

Venus Trine Uranus

Venus Sextile Neptune

Venus Square Pluto

Venus Conjunct Sun/Jupiter

Venus Opposition Saturn/Uranus