John C. Lilly
in Relationships

He is very sensitive, cautious, and shy about showing others his feelings. Though he may love and care for someone a great deal, John C. Lilly rarely expresses his feelings openly and freely. Very often Lilly's love for someone is expressed by his wish to help him, do something tangible to benefit him or serve him in some way.

It is also difficult for him to receive warmth, affection or appreciation, for he often feels that he does not really deserve it or that "they do not really mean it". Lilly may therefore come across as rather cool and aloof - much more so than he feels.

A deeply ingrained critical attitude often makes John difficult to live with. John C. Lilly needs to learn to be gentler and less of a perfectionist with others and with himself.

Though he wants close relationships very much, John C. Lilly often closes himself off and does not really trust others who may wish to get to know him. Lilly is very wholehearted in his feelings and responses to people, and he wants all or nothing from the people he cares for.

He is assertive and confronts difficulties in a direct, no-nonsense sort of way. John C. Lilly cannot tolerate self-pity or passivity, and he can be rather brusque with others' emotional problems. "Stop crying and do something about it" might be Lilly's motto.

He is inclined to identify duty and happiness with each other. Self-disciplined and realistic, John C. Lilly expects very little. Once he has found his mate, John C. Lilly will be faithful, self-sacrificing and strongly attached to his partner.

In love relationships, John C. Lilly seeks companionship and friendship with someone who is fun loving, playful and open to adventure and new experiences. He enjoys traveling together, meeting new people and making new friends. Honeymooning in a distant location appeals to John, and he is also attracted to foreigners or people with diametrically different backgrounds than his own. John C. Lilly supports his partner in taking risks and making positive changes, rather than preserving the status quo. He also very much wants a partner who will encourage his own aspirations and dreams. It is very important to John that he have a spiritual or intellectual rapport with his love partner, perhaps more important than the emotional/physical aspect. John C. Lilly is not especially sentimental and his love partner may feel that he is too casual and not serious or romantic enough.

Lilly is a very sociable, congenial person and he wilts very quickly without relationships with good friends and people to share good times with. John C. Lilly thoroughly enjoys working with others on group projects or community activities. He is quite happy when he is a part of a club, support group, or team of some sort.

Sensitive and compassionate, Lilly tends to be the "giver" in any relationship. John has high ideals and a refined attitude towards love relationships, seeking to relate in ways that go beyond egotistical and selfish needs. John is attracted to people with artistic or mystical inclinations.

He is prone to get involved in highly intense, even obsessive relationships - "fatal attractions", so to speak. At its darkest, this urge for intensity in the personal arena may compel John C. Lilly to choose friends or mates who are rather dangerous or dishonorable characters with a penchant for manipulating and inflicting pain on their "loved ones". On the other hand, Lilly may be tempted to use his own sexuality or charm to play the same sort of game, to use love or friendship as a bargaining chip or to gain power over others. Even if his intentions are basically good, John C. Lilly will find that his closest relationships are rather tumultuous affairs in which some rather unlovely aspects of his (such as jealousy and the desire to dominate or to be a victim) keep showing their faces. These are qualities that need to be understood and ultimately outgrown.

His nature is harmonious and John radiates happiness so that everyone around him will be in good spirits. His taste is likely to be elegant and he has a strong desire to surround himself with beauty. John C. Lilly may be interested in fashion, hair-styling or other beauty-related fields.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Virgo

Moon in 8th house

Moon Trine Mars

Moon Conjunct Venus/Saturn

Venus in Sagittarius

Venus in 11th house

Venus Trine Neptune

Venus Quincunx Pluto

Venus Conjunct Moon/Jupiter