Howard Duff
in Relationships

His desire for harmonious relationships and surroundings is so strong that he avoids personal confrontation or any expression of intense, unpleasant emotions. Howard Duff is an idealist who would like to paint the world in pastel colors, and live in peace and harmony with others at all times. He is able to see points of similarity and unity with people who are vastly different from him, and befriend many different types of people. He is a considerate and thoughtful friend, and has a real flair for making others feel accepted and appreciated. Inwardly, Howard Duff is often torn with indecision and is much more at odds with himself than others would ever guess based on his flawless disposition.

Though he wants close relationships very much, Howard Duff often closes himself off and does not really trust others who may wish to get to know him. Duff is very wholehearted in his feelings and responses to people, and he wants all or nothing from the people he cares for.

Howard Duff has a buoyant, cheerful disposition and he reaches out to others in a warm, open and friendly way. His emotional generosity and lack of pettiness is well known among his circle of friends, and people often seek Howard out for help, sympathy or advice. Howard Duff is always willing to overlook others' faults, and he sometimes overdoes his charitableness.

There is another side to Howard Duff as well, a rather introverted, self-contained, even pessimistic side which tempers his good cheer and generosity, as discussed below.

Howard Duff has an inner poise and balance that enables him to act in a cool, efficient manner during emotional trauma and stress. He maintains his perspective and objectivity about highly charged emotional issues - sometimes to the chagrin of others who might wish that Duff would react more intensely. Howard is quietly supportive and faithful to his friends and loved ones.

Howard Duff tends to go to extremes to be different or to preserve his freedom, and his nature is rather thoughtless, impatient and restless. He is daring and audacious, ambitious and determined, but feels that things can only be accomplished by using force.

In love relationships, Howard Duff desires a deep, intense and passionate union with his beloved and forms very strong emotional bonds and attachments. Howard "marries" the person he loves at a very deep emotional level, and is often extremely possessive and jealous of anyone who may pose a threat to that union. Duff can be very demanding of his love partner. Howard Duff tends to be somewhat suspicious of his partner's relationships, even if they are merely platonic. If he is ever betrayed, Howard Duff is capable of hating with as much force and intensity as he once loved. He is attracted to people who have an aura of mystery about them.

Howard is attracted to foreigners, exotic places, traveling, and to people who can expand his horizons, teach him something, or show Duff places and worlds he has never experienced before. Sharing a philosophy or ideal with his love partner is important to him.

Also, Howard Duff feels love and kinship for people everywhere, not only with his own family, nationality, or group. Finding similarities and making links between people from differing backgrounds or with different perspectives is a gift of his.

Howard Duff tends to deprive himself of pleasure, friendship, and love, either because he feels he does not deserve it or he thinks it is wrong to enjoy life too much. Duff may have been indoctrinated with a duty-and-work-before-all-else orientation early on. He may also think of himself as unattractive or unlovable, and thus close his heart to opportunities to share love and companionship, never quite believing that others actually like him. Howard Duff is apt to prefer solitude to being in uncomfortable relationships or social situations, and his shyness may be intense - especially when young. Learning to truly love and accept himself - including whatever flaws or imperfections Howard believes he has - is so important for him. This process of self-appreciation and self-love will reap rewards, especially in later life.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Libra

Moon in 8th house

Moon Square Jupiter

Moon aspects Jupiter and Saturn

Moon Trine Saturn

Moon Opposition Uranus/Pluto

Venus in Scorpio

Venus in 9th house

Venus Quincunx Saturn