Franky Van Der Elst
in Relationships
Secretive and inclined to brooding silences, it is difficult for others to really know his inner core, for Franky Van Der Elst only trusts and opens himself to a select few. Allowing himself to be vulnerable and to relinquish control in relationships is not easy for Van Der Elst.
Franky has intense, passionate loves and hates and is a jealously loyal and protective friend - or a fearsome foe. Franky Van Der Elst has a nasty habit of holding onto past hurts, resentments and guilt - and to keep such feelings to himself. It is important for Franky Van Der Elst to learn to forgive and let go, as well as to express his feelings openly and directly, rather than hiding or repressing them.
He is not content with superficial appearances and is always probing beneath the surface of things for hidden motives. Franky Van Der Elst has a great deal of emotional depth.
Franky Van Der Elst has a sympathetic nature and instinctively reaches out to people in need of help. Van Der Elst also has a deeply ingrained tendency to want to improve or "fix" other people's lives, which can be annoying to the person who has no desire to be changed or "helped" in this way. For Franky, affection and caring must be expressed in tangible acts of some kind.
Franky Van Der Elst has a buoyant, cheerful disposition and he reaches out to others in a warm, open and friendly way. His emotional generosity and lack of pettiness is well known among his circle of friends, and people often seek Franky out for help, sympathy or advice. Franky Van Der Elst is always willing to overlook others' faults, and he sometimes overdoes his charitableness.
There is another side to Franky Van Der Elst as well, a rather introverted, self-contained, even pessimistic side which tempers his good cheer and generosity, as discussed below.
Franky Van Der Elst often feels that he must do something or be something other than what he is in order to receive approval and acceptance from others. He is very sensitive to criticism and easily feels left out or neglected, and though he may appear cool or distant, Van Der Elst actually cares very much about being included. Because he is so sensitive, it may seem easier for Franky Van Der Elst to withdraw into a shell rather than risk the emotional bumps and bruises he may endure once he lets others really know him in an intimate, personal way. His reserve and caution make establishing close emotional relationships with others difficult, and Franky Van Der Elst becomes very attached to the few people he considers "real friends". Van Der Elst can gain inner security and strength through periods of solitude if he views them as times to nourish himself and develop his own interests, rather than as times of loneliness.
Franky has very deep feelings and profound attachments to people he cares about. His relationships to his mother, sisters, daughters, and other females in his life are likely to be incredibly close and intense. Furthermore, Franky Van Der Elst may easily be manipulated too when it comes to one of these important relationships because he is so emotionally invested in it.
He is very intuitive and has the ability to make the right decisions guided by his inner feelings. Franky Van Der Elst has a sense of honor and pride and is considerate of others. Others respect Van Der Elst and are willing to help him, because he does not act out of petty motives.
His love feelings and desires are easily aroused but he may find it difficult to sustain his romantic interest in relationships after the initial, exciting "chase and conquest". Franky Van Der Elst enjoys a dynamic partner with a strong independent streak, and he does not like things to become too peaceful or predictable in the love arena. Franky wants to see sparks fly once in awhile, even if it means instigating a fight.
Franky Van Der Elst often hides his affection, or finds his feelings difficult to express or get across to the person he loves. Being openly affectionate and trusting often does not seem safe to Franky. He may feel his love will not be appreciated or reciprocated. Franky Van Der Elst may get involved in secret love relationships or fall in love with a person who is quite unavailable to him. Love and sacrifice often seem to go hand in hand for Franky Van Der Elst - i.e. having to give something up to be with the one he loves, or having to relinquish a person or an aspect of an important love relationship.
It is absolutely essential for Franky Van Der Elst not to deceive himself when it comes to love relationships, romance, or the true nature of others. Franky tends to be in love with love, and can be incredibly naive and easily seduced. Confusion, disappointments, and regrettable mistakes in both emotional and financial matters may ensue. On the other hand, it is also possible that Franky Van Der Elst will use his attractiveness or charm to deceive others. Clarity, directness, honesty and realism regarding romantic relationships and people in general need to be developed.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon in Scorpio
Moon in 6th house
Moon Square Jupiter
Moon aspects Jupiter and Saturn
Moon Square Saturn
Moon Sextile Pluto
Moon Opposition Mars/Jupiter
Venus in Aries
Venus in 12th house
Venus Quincunx Neptune
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