Debbie Allen
in Relationships

Serious and responsible, she tries to carry the world on her shoulders and rarely lets others know that she needs help and support. Debbie Allen denies or ignores her own emotional needs and feels that others will not accept her if she appears "weak". She is especially uncomfortable with emotional dependency, and tells herself and others (even children) not to be a "baby". Debbie Allen needs to accept that no one is self-sufficient all the time, and to be gentler with her "childish" emotional needs and wants. To others, she may appear to be rather hard-nosed and tough, with a businesslike attitude toward their personal concerns and feelings. Actually, no one is a truer friend. Her feelings and loyalties run deep, but she often does not let people know how much she cares. Debbie Allen also sometimes needs to learn to relax, enjoy herself, and play.

Debbie has strong attachments to her past, the place where she grew up, her heritage and family traditions. In fact, Debbie Allen may be unable to step out of the habits and roles that she learned as a child. Allen's ties to her mother are very strong and Debbie also seeks nurturing and protection from her spouse and other family members.

She is temperamental and impatient and can be very difficult to live with. Debbie Allen tends to respond with a temper tantrum (overt or subtle) if her desires are frustrated. Debbie Allen becomes very irritable and bad-tempered if she lacks vigorous physical activity or other outlets for her aggressive, feisty spirit.

She is open and unconventional in her attitude towards love relationships, romance and sex. She enjoys socializing, bringing people together and having many friends of both sexes. Debbie Allen values friendship very highly and in fact, she is more comfortable being a friend than a lover. Debbie desires an intellectual rapport or spiritual bond with her love partner, but deep intimacy and emotional bonding do not come easily to her. The traditional "husband" and "wife" roles do not appeal to Allen, and she abhors jealousy and possessiveness since she feels that no person truly "belongs" to another. Debbie Allen appreciates relationships in which her love partner allows her plenty of freedom and is not very emotionally demanding.

Debbie Allen loves romance and wishes that the honeymoon phase of her love relationships would last forever! Allen needs dramatic romantic gestures and displays of affection from her partner and she wants to feel very, very special - like royalty - to her beloved. Debbie Allen also has an artistic flair and she enjoys creating art or some form of beauty.

Debbie Allen tends to deprive herself of pleasure, friendship and love, either because she feels she does not deserve it or she thinks it is wrong to enjoy life too much. Allen may have been indoctrinated with a duty-and-work-before-all-else attitude early on. She may also think of herself as unattractive or unlovable, and thus close her heart to opportunities to share love and companionship, never quite believing that others actually like her. Debbie Allen is apt to prefer solitude to being in uncomfortable relationships or social situations, and her shyness may be intense - especially when young. Learning to truly love and accept herself - including whatever flaws or imperfections Debbie believes she has - is vital for her. This process of self-appreciation and self-love will reap rewards, especially in later life.

Sensitive and compassionate, Allen tends to be the "giver" in any relationship. Debbie has high ideals and a refined attitude towards love relationships, seeking to relate in ways that go beyond egotistical and selfish needs. Debbie is attracted to people with artistic or mystical inclinations.

Intimate relationships are the arena in which Debbie Allen explores the depths she is capable of. She could fall intensely and fanatically in love and be obsessive, extraordinarily jealous or deeply involved with her partners. Allen will experience both heaven and hell in her closest relationships. There is undoubtedly a peculiarly karmic, fated quality to these relationships, which - though difficult - will teach Debbie Allen things about herself and about love that she could not learn in any other way. Allen will often enter relationships which she realizes - rationally - will be very difficult, yet she cannot resist them, nonetheless. Debbie Allen needs not to avoid berating herself for these "bad" choices; instead, she needs to learn what she can from them.

Others may get the impression that Debbie Allen considers personal relationships not very important, as she may pretend to have feelings for someone when she really does not. Debbie Allen would make a very good actor playing the part of a lover.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Capricorn

Moon in 4th house

Moon Square Mars

Venus in Aquarius

Venus in 5th house

Venus Quincunx Saturn

Venus Trine Neptune

Venus Opposition Pluto

Venus Opposition Neptune/MC