David Vanian
in Relationships

Serious and responsible, he tries to carry the world on his shoulders and rarely lets others know that he needs help and support. David Vanian denies or ignores his own emotional needs and feels that others will not accept him if he appears "weak". He is especially uncomfortable with emotional dependency, and tells himself and others (even children) not to be a "baby". David Vanian needs to accept that no one is self-sufficient all the time, and to be gentler with his "childish" emotional needs and wants. To others, he may appear to be rather hard-nosed and tough, with a businesslike attitude toward their personal concerns and feelings. Actually, no one is a truer friend. His feelings and loyalties run deep, but he often does not let people know how much he cares. David Vanian also sometimes needs to learn to relax, enjoy himself, and play.

David Vanian has a soft exterior and tends to relate very personally and sympathetically to other people. However, David sometimes lets his emotions overpower his reasoning and logic, and consequently he is sometimes biased in his opinions. David Vanian is impressionable and rather gentle, or at least that is the way he comes across. David wears his heart on his sleeves and cannot hide his emotions.

He is dedicated to the people he cares about and conscientious about fulfilling his responsibilities, especially to family. Family solidarity and cohesiveness are very important to David Vanian; accordingly, so are the traditions, rituals, and memories that keep the bonds strong.

David Vanian is apt to do more than his fair share in the family and go the extra mile, but for the most part this is satisfying rather than burdensome to him.

He is a dreamer who is attracted to the inner, mystical side of life, and may have trouble distinguishing the real from the imagined or illusory. David does not enjoy confrontation and becomes very evasive when problems in his personal life or relationships arise, and escapes into his imagination in order to avoid dealing with them directly. He is also rather gullible and naive about people, especially if his sympathy has been aroused. David Vanian is very sensitive to music and can use it to achieve emotional balance and harmony.

Powerful and complex emotions stir David Vanian, and his emotional life and closest personal relationships are liable to be tumultuous until David does some deep soul searching. Buried feelings and memories that he does not want to deal with may surface at unexpected times. Holding in fears, secrets or "taboo" thoughts and feelings can only intensify them, and David Vanian needs to share them with someone who is sympathetic, trustworthy and fairly objective. Ridding himself of emotional compulsions and deeply embedded patterns that do not serve him can be tremendously liberating if David Vanian is willing to do the necessary inner house cleaning.

He is quietly devoted and faithful to his loved ones and often becomes subservient to his love partner. David Vanian is more comfortable showing his love by doing or making something for his loved one, or simply being there for her, rather than by making any romantic, soul-stirring declarations. He is timid about expressing too much sentiment or emotion. David Vanian also underestimates his attractiveness and lovability and doubts his own worthiness of love and appreciation.

David Vanian craves very intense, deep, emotional relationships, and would even prefer stormy, tumultuous relationships to ones that are calm but lack vitality and passion. David loves wholeheartedly and expects all-consuming, total devotion and attention from his partner. Casual, light relationships hold no appeal for Vanian.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Capricorn

Moon in 1st house

Moon Sextile Saturn

Moon Square Neptune

Moon Quincunx Pluto

Venus in Virgo

Venus in 8th house