Colonel Tom Parker
in Relationships

His desire for harmonious relationships and surroundings is so strong that he avoids personal confrontation or any expression of intense, unpleasant emotions. Colonel Tom Parker is an idealist who would like to paint the world in pastel colors, and live in peace and harmony with others at all times. He is able to see points of similarity and unity with people who are vastly different from him, and befriend many different types of people. He is a considerate and thoughtful friend, and has a real flair for making others feel accepted and appreciated. Inwardly, Colonel Tom Parker is often torn with indecision and is much more at odds with himself than others would ever guess based on his flawless disposition.

Colonel Parker depends a great deal upon other people for emotional support and he has a large "family" of friends that care about him and treat him as kin. The women in Tom's life are particularly important to him, and his relationships with them powerfully influence his sense of security and happiness. Colonel Tom Parker may be overly dependent and unsure of himself without a close partner.

Tom has conflicting emotional desires and needs which complicate his personal life and relationships. He may feel that he cannot depend on his love partner to take care of him or perhaps Colonel Parker cannot decide what he really wants in love relationships: a parent or a lover. If his needs for emotional sustenance and love are not satisfied, overeating (especially sweets) can become a problem.

Colonel Tom Parker tends to be touchy, defensive and rather territorial, and if he perceives a threat to his family or home or personal safety, he can be quite aggressive. Sometimes Tom feels out of sorts and hostile for no apparent reason, and this is usually due to unexpressed, unresolved anger from the past. Colonel Tom Parker also has a desire to lead, to compete, or to be a free agent, that he is not entirely conscious of. It is good for Colonel Parker to have benign outlets and ways to let off steam on a regular basis, such as demanding physical work or athletics. Otherwise Colonel Tom Parker may be rather hard to live with, even abusive in his relationships.

Although Colonel Parker gets hot under the collar rather easily (as mentioned above), he also has a certain degree of emotional self-control and composure, which enable Colonel Tom Parker to rein in some of his more aggressive tendencies. This side of his is described below.

Some rather acute fears of being excluded, rejected, left out in the cold or separated from loved ones can make Colonel Tom Parker either extremely cautious about getting close to people or clingy toward whoever gives him any warmth or security. Colonel Tom Parker tends to withhold and clamp down on many of his feelings and craves nurturing and security, perhaps feeling that they are unacceptable or will never be satisfied. Learning to be open and trust others to nurture him is important to him. His earliest years, especially Colonel Parker's relationships with his mother, will determine whether Colonel Tom Parker will overcome his fears or retreat behind a mask of self-sufficiency and indifference.

In addition to Tom's rather introverted, serious or self-contained side, he has a wild streak and urge for emotional freedom that breaks through erratically. Colonel Tom Parker craves both stability and excitement, and the conflict between these two impulses can make Colonel Parker rather tense and irritable. However, they can also balance each other out. His freer and unpredictable side will now be described.

Colonel Tom Parker craves excitement, change and discovery, and cannot tolerate a routine or lifestyle that offers little in the way of surprise or challenge. Excitable, spontaneous and enthusiastic about anything new, he may be perceived by others as being too impulsive, especially in personal relationships. It is not easy for Colonel Tom Parker to make or keep commitments, since he does not know how he will be feeling from one day to the next. Emotional freedom is very important to Colonel Parker. His domestic life may be very unstable - but Colonel Parker likes it that way.

Although Colonel Tom Parker was portrayed above as being assertive and combative, he also has a diametrically opposed tendency - namely the urge to escape all contention and ugliness. This may mellow Tom's fiery reactions somewhat, or he may seesaw between the two. His softer side is described in the following paragraphs.

He is a dreamer who is attracted to the inner, mystical side of life, and may have trouble distinguishing the real from the imagined or illusory. Tom does not enjoy confrontation and becomes very evasive when problems in his personal life or relationships arise, and escapes into his imagination in order to avoid dealing with them directly. He is also rather gullible and naive about people, especially if his sympathy has been aroused. Colonel Tom Parker is very sensitive to music and can use it to achieve emotional balance and harmony.

He is very impressionable and extremely sensitive to his surroundings. Tom may be especially sensitive to noise as well as bright lights and sunshine. Colonel Tom Parker may also want to learn about the deeper dimensions of life, the occult or mystical things.

Sensitive and sentimental, Colonel Tom Parker is deeply attached to his family, old friends, familiar places and the past. He is romantic and tender in love relationships, and it is of utmost importance to Colonel Parker to remember birthdays, anniversaries, family rituals and other personally significant days. Colonel Tom Parker seeks caring, emotional support, and security in his love relationships. Tom likes to be needed, as well as to cherish and protect his loved ones, of whom he is somewhat possessive.

Colonel Tom Parker loves romance and wishes that the honeymoon phase of his love relationships would last forever! Colonel Parker needs dramatic romantic gestures and displays of affection from his partner, and he wants to feel very, very special, like a royalty, to his beloved. Colonel Tom Parker also has an artistic flair and he enjoys creating art or beauty in some form.

Colonel Tom Parker is warmly romantic and he openly expresses his appreciation and love of the opposite sex, though rarely in a crude or insensitive manner. He enjoys playing matchmaker and bringing people together romantically. Colonel Parker is likely to find fulfillment and harmony in love relationships because he knows what he wants and needs in a romantic sense and expresses his desires honestly.

He is serious and finds it difficult to enjoy himself in a lighthearted, open and playful way with others. Colonel Tom Parker rarely does something purely for pleasure, and can be very close-fisted and parsimonious. Perhaps due to painful separations in his early life, Tom is very cautious about becoming involved in close relationships and sharing his feelings. Though Colonel Parker craves love and affection, intimacy is difficult for him. He may become romantically involved with people who do not value him or treat him well. Colonel Tom Parker needs to learn to love and value himself before he finds happiness in love.

When it comes to love relationships, Colonel Parker is likely to feel pulled in several directions at once. In addition to his desire for depth and security in his relationships, Colonel Tom Parker has an impulsive side and a need for a lot of variety and excitement, as discussed in the following paragraphs. These urges do not have to conflict, but they certainly can, especially if Tom acts on his spontaneous impulses without much consideration for their long-term effects on his personal life.

Colonel Tom Parker is not a traditionalist where love and relationships are concerned, and he often feels that formal commitments and conventional relationships are too binding and restricting. Thus, Tom is not very comfortable with forming lasting attachments or letting other people depend on him. He may be attracted to wild, unreliable, highly creative and/or unstable people who do not offer him any security. Even if Colonel Tom Parker professes to want something steady and solid, he is very reluctant to give up his freedom and autonomy for its sake. At best, he is suited to serial monogamy or relationships that leave Colonel Parker a lot of breathing space.

He is very romantic, idealistic and imaginative about love relationships. Colonel Tom Parker yearns for his "true love" or "soul mate" and may become disappointed in those who never quite live up to his dream image of the perfect lover. Colonel Parker frequently fantasizes about love and often falls in love with someone he can only love from afar. He may avoid making a definite personal commitment. Gentle and sensitive, Colonel Tom Parker does not like to be approached in a very direct or aggressive manner. He is attracted to those with artistic or mystical inclinations.

He may be subject to periodic changes of mood, is serious, somewhat somber, and he seems to lack confidence in himself and could have trouble giving of his. Colonel Tom Parker tends to avoid close relationships, expecting to be disappointed if he lets anyone come too close.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Libra

Moon in 7th house

Moon Square Venus

Moon Quincunx Mars

Moon aspects Mars and Saturn

Moon Opposition Saturn

Moon aspects Saturn and Uranus

Moon Square Uranus

Moon aspects Mars and Neptune

Moon Square Neptune

Moon Opposition Uranus/Neptune

Venus in Cancer

Venus in 5th house

Venus Trine Mars

Venus Square Saturn

Venus aspects Saturn and Uranus

Venus Opposition Uranus

Venus Conjunct Neptune

Venus Conjunct Moon/Saturn