Carel Willink
in Relationships

Carel does not appear to be an intensely emotional or sentimental person, and he is often unaware of his own or other people's deeper feelings and emotional needs. Tears and tantrums bewilder him and make him very uncomfortable. Carel Willink would rather settle differences by talking things out reasonably and rationally, but he tends to ignore or poke fun at any attempt to probe his own or others' inner depths.

Carel Willink avoids heavy, demanding emotional relationships and is wary of making personal commitments.

He needs ample mental stimulation and feels close to people with whom he can share thoughts and intellectual interests. Conversation is very important to Willink. The strong, silent partner is not for him.

Carel Willink often makes decisions solely for emotional or personal reasons, because something "feels right" or because he has always done it a certain way and he is uncomfortable changing it. Even when Willink thinks he is being rational, his prejudices, intuitions, and feelings influence his thoughts a great deal. Carel is comfortable talking about feelings and personal subjects, and sharing confidences, which enables others to express their own inner feelings with him as well. Carel Willink has good psychological insight into others.

He is temperamental and impatient and can be very difficult to live with. Carel Willink tends to respond with a temper tantrum (overt or subtle) if his desires are frustrated. Carel Willink becomes very irritable and bad-tempered if he lacks vigorous physical activity or other outlets for his aggressive, feisty spirit.

Although Willink gets hot under the collar rather easily (as mentioned above), he also has a certain degree of emotional self-control and composure, which enable Carel Willink to rein in some of his more aggressive tendencies. This side of his is described below.

Willink can be hard to get close to. Subconsciously he may feel that too much closeness in his relationships will interfere with doing what he needs to do and being his own person, so Carel Willink puts up subtle walls and distance himself when someone begins to want more of him than he can comfortably give. However, Willink may cut off sources of emotional nourishment and support that way, and end up feeling alone and lonely. Carel Willink might even develop digestive problems. Overcoming his fears of intimacy, while at the same time affirming and acting on his autonomous needs, is the challenge here.

His love feelings and desires are easily aroused but he may find it difficult to sustain his romantic interest in relationships after the initial, exciting "chase and conquest". Carel Willink enjoys a dynamic partner with a strong independent streak, and he does not like things to become too peaceful or predictable in the love arena. Carel wants to see sparks fly once in awhile, even if it means instigating a fight.

For Carel Willink, caring and affection must be expressed tangibly, and he loves giving and receiving gifts. Carel values luxury, comfort, and elegance very highly and appreciates beautiful things. He can be self-indulgent and extravagant. Being overly possessive of people he loves and of his belongings is something Carel Willink needs to beware of.

Carel Willink has a rich, colorful, dreamy imagination and a refined sense of beauty. Involvement in the arts, or with artistic, sensitive, or spiritually inclined people is very satisfying to him. In his friendships and romantic relationships, Willink tends to be unselfish, giving, and forgiving. Carel Willink might enjoy joining with others for charitable events or social service.

He is strongly attracted to the opposite sex and his relationships tend to be harmonious. Carel Willink will probably marry for love and his mate will be a friend to him as well as a lover. The atmosphere in his family life is affectionate and protective.

Carel Willink has a very erotic and sexual nature and may often find himself drawn to another person by a kind of inner compulsion. Willink could become quite obsessed by someone and he has a tendency to control and manipulate his relationships.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Gemini

Moon in 3rd house

Moon Square Mars

Moon aspects Mars and Saturn

Moon Quincunx Saturn

Venus in Aries

Venus in 2nd house

Venus Sextile Neptune

Venus Conjunct Sun/Moon

Venus Conjunct Mars/Pluto