Benjamin McKenzie
in Relationships

Serious and responsible, she tries to carry the world on her shoulders and rarely lets others know that she needs help and support. Benjamin McKenzie denies or ignores her own emotional needs and feels that others will not accept her if she appears "weak". She is especially uncomfortable with emotional dependency, and tells herself and others (even children) not to be a "baby". Benjamin McKenzie needs to accept that no one is self-sufficient all the time, and to be gentler with her "childish" emotional needs and wants. To others, she may appear to be rather hard-nosed and tough, with a businesslike attitude toward their personal concerns and feelings. Actually, no one is a truer friend. Her feelings and loyalties run deep, but she often does not let people know how much she cares. Benjamin McKenzie also sometimes needs to learn to relax, enjoy herself, and play.

Benjamin McKenzie often makes decisions solely for emotional or personal reasons, because something "feels right" or because she has always done it a certain way and is uncomfortable acting otherwise. Even when McKenzie thinks she is being rational, her prejudices, intuitions and feelings influence her thoughts a great deal. Ben is comfortable talking about feelings and personal subjects, and sharing confidences, which enables others to express their own inner feelings with her as well. Benjamin McKenzie has good psychological insight into others.

She is temperamental and impatient and can be very difficult to live with. Benjamin McKenzie tends to respond with a temper tantrum (overt or subtle) if her desires are frustrated. Benjamin McKenzie becomes very irritable and bad-tempered if she lacks vigorous physical activity or other outlets for her aggressive, feisty spirit.

In love relationships, Benjamin McKenzie desires a deep, intense and passionate union with her beloved and forms very strong emotional bonds and attachments. Ben "marries" the person she loves at a very deep emotional level, and is often extremely possessive and jealous of anyone who may pose a threat to that union. McKenzie can be very demanding of her love partner. Benjamin McKenzie tends to be somewhat suspicious of her partner's relationships, even if they are merely platonic. If she is ever betrayed, Benjamin McKenzie is capable of hating with as much force and intensity as she once loved. She is attracted to people who have an aura of mystery about them.

Benjamin McKenzie often hides her affection, or finds her feelings difficult to express or get across to the person she loves. Being openly affectionate and trusting often does not seem safe to Ben. She may feel her love will not be appreciated or reciprocated. Benjamin McKenzie may get involved in secret love relationships or fall in love with a person who is quite unavailable to her. Love and sacrifice often seem to go hand in hand for Benjamin McKenzie - i.e. having to give something up to be with the one she loves, or having to relinquish a person or an aspect of an important love relationship.

Benjamin McKenzie shares whatever she has freely and her friends know they can always count on Ben's generosity and support - both emotional and material. Her good-hearted acceptance and tolerance of others' foibles goes a long way toward maintaining harmony in her relationships. Benjamin McKenzie also has a lazy streak and sometimes avoids confronting difficult issues in relationships simply because it seems like too much trouble and too petty. Ben likes to socialize and will use any excuse to celebrate with friends. She cannot tolerate being overly restricted by her love partner, and encourages her partner's freedom as well.

Ben's pleasure-loving nature and her emotional and material generosity discussed above are counterbalanced by a certain caution or restraint in expressing her affection, and by a fear of heartache. At times Benjamin McKenzie is likely to be the jovial, friendly, rather extravagant person mentioned previously, but at other times she is far more contained as described here. Because she is upbeat and fun-loving, people probably do not suspect how sensitive McKenzie is to being left out or unappreciated.

In love relationships and romance, it is important for Benjamin McKenzie to be able to deeply respect her partner. Ben looks beyond the superficial qualities to see their inner worth (or lack thereof), before she lets herself really fall for someone. In fact, too much glamour or flashiness is something of a turn-off for her. Benjamin McKenzie is capable of mature, lasting, loving relationships and seeks a mate who is deep, loyal, and committed. She may be drawn to someone older than her.

Her erotic nature is strong and Benjamin McKenzie is likely to have a lot of romantic relationships. Very unconventional, she may have many unorthodox contacts. Ben has much zest for life, likes her freedom and finds it difficult to settle down.

Benjamin McKenzie tends to be a bit envious and is inclined to begrudge other people. Quite suspicious, she may misconceive the relationships or associations of others, and become dissatisfied herself. Ben could also be subject to improper liaisons.

Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:

Moon in Capricorn

Moon in 3rd house

Moon Square Mars

Venus in Scorpio

Venus in 12th house

Venus Square Jupiter

Venus aspects Jupiter and Saturn

Venus Sextile Saturn

Venus Conjunct Mars/Uranus

Venus Conjunct Neptune/N. Node