Alessandro Calcaterra
in Relationships
Open and generous, Alessandro Calcaterra enjoys a wide circle of friends and acquaintances and he thrives on sociability and fellowship. He is adventurous, playful, freedom loving, and always ready for a good time. Calcaterra rarely allows obstacles or difficulties to keep him down, for no matter how bleak the past or present, Alessandro always expects a better, brighter future. In fact, he is uncomfortable with his own or other people's problems and emotional pain. Alessandro Calcaterra often tries to "cheer up" or offer philosophical advice to those who are hurting, but he unwittingly avoids or ignores the emotions involved.
Friendship means a great deal to Calcaterra, perhaps even more than love relationships or romance. For Alessandro Calcaterra to be happy, his mate must be his best friend and encourage Alessandro's aspirations and ideals. Alessandro Calcaterra also needs a great deal of emotional freedom and mobility.
He is emotionally expressive and often dramatizes his feelings by acting them out or blowing them out of proportion. Alessandro Calcaterra cannot hide his instinctive emotional reactions to people or situations, and he does not make any pretenses about his personal sympathies or antipathies.
Alessandro Calcaterra has a childlike openness and playfulness that is very appealing to others but sometimes gets him into trouble, as Alessandro takes risks on an impulse or a whim.
There is a side to Alessandro Calcaterra that loves comfort and the easy life, and unless other factors in his chart indicate strong drive and ambition, Calcaterra can be lazy and overly permissive with himself. He enjoys being taken care of and pampered, and self-indulgence is always a temptation for Calcaterra. If Alessandro's parents made the unfortunate mistake of indulging him too much as a child, this may be a very hard habit to break. Alessandro Calcaterra can be so softhearted and affectionate that it is hard to say no to him. Eating too many sweets is a vice Alessandro is particularly prone to.
He is easygoing, agreeable and tolerant, willing to overlook others' mistakes, forget the past, and begin anew on a positive note. He enjoys making others comfortable and happy, and he sometimes overdoes his generosity. Alessandro Calcaterra often feels that "everything will turn out all right no matter what I do", thereby becoming lazy and lackadaisical.
There is another side to Alessandro Calcaterra as well, a rather introverted, self-contained, even pessimistic side which tempers his good cheer and generosity, as discussed below.
Calcaterra can be hard to get close to. Subconsciously he may feel that too much closeness in his relationships will interfere with doing what he needs to do and being his own person, so Alessandro Calcaterra puts up subtle walls and distances himself when someone begins to want more of him than he can comfortably give. However, Calcaterra may cut off sources of emotional nourishment and support that way, and end up feeling alone and lonely. Alessandro Calcaterra might even develop digestive problems. Overcoming his fear of intimacy, while at the same time affirming and acting on his autonomous needs, is the challenge he faces.
Sensitive and sentimental, Alessandro Calcaterra is deeply attached to his family, old friends, familiar places and the past. He is romantic and tender in love relationships, and it is of utmost importance to Calcaterra to remember birthdays, anniversaries, family rituals and other personally significant days. Alessandro Calcaterra seeks caring, emotional support, and security in his love relationships. Alessandro likes to be needed, as well as to cherish and protect his loved ones, of whom he is somewhat possessive.
Alessandro Calcaterra often hides his affection, or finds his feelings difficult to express or get across to the person he loves. Being openly affectionate and trusting often does not seem safe to Alessandro. He may feel his love will not be appreciated or reciprocated. Alessandro Calcaterra may get involved in secret love relationships or fall in love with a person who is quite unavailable to him. Love and sacrifice often seem to go hand in hand for Alessandro Calcaterra - i.e. having to give something up to be with the one he loves, or having to relinquish a person or an aspect of an important love relationship.
Alessandro Calcaterra shares whatever he has freely and his friends know they can always count on Alessandro's generosity and support - both emotional and material. His good-hearted acceptance and tolerance of others' foibles goes a long way toward maintaining harmony in his relationships. Alessandro Calcaterra also has a lazy streak and sometimes avoids confronting difficult issues in relationships simply because it seems like too much trouble and too petty. Alessandro likes to socialize and will use any excuse to celebrate with friends. He cannot tolerate being overly restricted by his love partner, and encourages his partner's freedom as well.
Alessandro's pleasure-loving nature and his emotional and material generosity discussed above are counterbalanced by a certain caution or restraint in expressing his affection, and by a fear of heartache. At times Alessandro Calcaterra is likely to be the jovial, friendly, rather extravagant person mentioned previously, but at other times he is far more contained as described here. Because he is upbeat and fun-loving, people probably do not suspect how sensitive Calcaterra is to being left out or unappreciated.
Intimacy does not come easily to Alessandro Calcaterra and he may appear cold or unfeeling to others due to his emotional reserve and caution. Perhaps due to painful relationships and separations in his early life, Calcaterra does not trust others very easily and it takes a long time to break down all of his barriers and defenses. He may feel that he has few friends or people that really care about him. Alessandro Calcaterra needs to learn to value and love himself more and to express his appreciation for others more openly.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon in Sagittarius
Moon in 5th house
Moon Quincunx Venus
Moon Trine Jupiter
Moon aspects Jupiter and Saturn
Moon Quincunx Saturn
Venus in Cancer
Venus in 12th house
Venus Square Jupiter
Venus aspects Jupiter and Saturn
Venus Conjunct Saturn
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