Alan Wilder in Relationships
Alan Wilder has frequent emotional outbursts due to his fiery temper and emotional impulsiveness. Wilder expresses himself very directly and honestly and no one has to guess what his true feelings are. However, Alan Wilder dislikes showing any personal weakness or his need for support, comfort and nurturing. He is often impatient with himself and others. Alan abhors emotional dependency and dislikes "complainers".
Alan Wilder inspires others to take positive action in their lives through his own enthusiasm and eagerness to meet life's challenges, and he is attracted to people who are adventurous, courageous and independent. Alan is rather bossy but does not like to be with people that he can boss around too much. He enjoys a good fight sometimes. Relationships that are built on mutual respect and emotional freedom are ideal for Wilder.
Alan Wilder becomes very cross if he lacks vigorous physical activity. Wilder feels his best if he frequently "does battle" on the tennis or racquetball court (or engages in another form of competitive sport).
Alan Wilder has a soft exterior and tends to relate very personally and sympathetically to other people. However, Alan sometimes lets his emotions overpower his reasoning and logic, and consequently he is sometimes biased in his opinions. Alan Wilder is impressionable and rather gentle, or at least that is the way he appears. His feelings are on the surface and Alan cannot hide his emotions.
Alan Wilder often feels that he must do something or be something other than what he is in order to receive approval and acceptance from others. He is very sensitive to criticism and easily feels left out or neglected, and though he may appear cool or distant, Wilder actually cares very much about being included. Because he is so sensitive, it may seem easier for Alan Wilder to withdraw into a shell rather than risk the emotional bumps and bruises he may endure once he lets others really know him in an intimate, personal way. His reserve and caution make establishing close emotional relationships with others difficult, and Alan Wilder becomes very attached to the few people he considers "real friends". Wilder can gain inner security and strength through periods of solitude if he views them as times to nourish himself and develop his own interests, rather than as times of loneliness.
In addition to Alan's rather introverted, serious or self-contained side, he has a wild streak and urge for emotional freedom that breaks through erratically. Alan Wilder craves both stability and excitement, and the conflict between these two impulses can make Wilder rather tense and irritable. However, they can also balance each other out. His freer and unpredictable side will now be described.
He is uninhibited and spontaneous and will often do something unexpected or humorous in order to loosen people up and get them out of their rut. Alan Wilder craves emotional stimulation, excitement, surprises and anything new. Wilder also loves to feel free and unfettered.
Alan Wilder has a warm-hearted and cordial disposition and his feelings toward others are very deep and filled with love. Alan goes out of his way to be agreeable and should have little trouble getting ahead in life.
Sensitive and sentimental, Alan Wilder is deeply attached to his family, old friends, familiar places and the past. He is romantic and tender in love relationships, and it is of utmost importance to Wilder to remember birthdays, anniversaries, family rituals and other personally significant days. Alan Wilder seeks caring, emotional support, and security in his love relationships. Alan likes to be needed, as well as to cherish and protect his loved ones, of whom he is somewhat possessive.
Alan Wilder loves romance and wishes that the honeymoon phase of his love relationships would last forever! Wilder needs dramatic romantic gestures and displays of affection from his partner, and he wants to feel very, very special, like a royalty, to his beloved. Alan Wilder also has an artistic flair and he enjoys creating art or beauty in some form.
Alan Wilder is extremely amorous and it is difficult for him to go without romantic relationships for very long. When he is attracted to someone, Alan Wilder pursues her very ardently and sometimes comes on too strong. Being engaged in creative or artistic work can also satisfy his very strong desire for love and beauty.
Alan Wilder appreciates beautiful surroundings and congenial company, and though he enjoys helping people, Alan Wilder will rarely put himself out too much in the process. He is good-humored and generous at heart but inclined to be lazy.
Somewhat over-enthusiastic in matters of love relationships, Alan Wilder could fall in love with the wrong person. He may be too selfless and have the illusion that his only need in relationships is to make the other person happy, leading to disappointments and regrets.
Astrological factors in this Astro Profile section:
Moon in Aries
Moon in 1st house
Moon Square Saturn
Moon aspects Saturn and Uranus
Moon Trine Uranus
Moon Opposition Venus/MC
Venus in Cancer
Venus in 5th house
Venus Conjunct Mars
Venus Trine Jupiter
Venus Opposition Moon/Neptune
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